Why can't all life be important

What is important in life? The 4 pillars of a fulfilled life

How can I with all this knowledge finally reasonable Life?

You now know what life is about, you have the necessary serenity to be yourself, have found out what you really want and how you can bring more love into your life. Only one thing is missing: to live according to it!

This section is dedicated to this last and important step:

What is happiness and contentment?

Happiness and contentment are not rare goods that are only given to certain people. Rather, these things are commonplace and everyone can take their share of them. And therein lies the secret and the key to happiness at the same time:

You are not given happiness, you take happiness!

That is not to say that you take it away from others or have to assert yourself somewhere to get it. It hangs around like wild apples on trees and you just have to grab it. But that's exactly what we often don't see. We believe that happiness and contentment have to be worked out hard and that we have to deserve to have a most fulfilling life. That's not true. Happiness and fulfillment are there for everyone. Everytime and everywhere.

How do I get happy and satisfied?

You just have to understand that your luck is in your own hands at all times. Or rather in the head.

Our thoughts shape our reality. No, I don't mean that in the sense of The Secret or other esoteric wish formulas for orders from the universe. I lack my own responsibility a little too much everywhere. I mean the very logical conclusion that your world depends on like you:

  1. shape your life through your actions and influences, because your actions are based on your thinking and
  2. see and perceive your life, because your perception is also based on your thoughts.

In order to lead a happy and fulfilling life, it is important to use both screws:

How do I create a happy and fulfilling life for myself?

When you know what is important to you in life, all you have to do is align your life with it.

Yes, that's easier said than done. But I have a short story for you that will help you with this:

A professor of philosophy gave a lecture to his students. On his desk he had several things in front of him. First he took a large glass and filled it to the brim with stones. He asked his students if the glass was full. You answered yes to this question.

Then the professor took pebbles and also poured them into the glass. As he shook the glass, the pebbles filled the spaces between the large stones. Then he asked the students again if the glass was now full. They agreed again. Then he poured sand into the glass. The sand filled in the remaining gaps.

Then the professor turned to his students and said:

“The glass is like life in all its fullness. In the beginning it is empty, but over time it fills up. If you don't fill it, then others will seize the opportunity and fill it up. The stones are the important things in your life that are also known as values: your family, children, health, freedom, security, peace and serenity ...

The pebbles are the less important things in life, something that can change quickly from time to time: your apartment or house, work, your car, your vacation. The sand symbolizes the very little things in life that you experience every day that are beautiful but not that important.

If we had first put the sand and then the pebbles into the glass, there would have been no room for the big things, no matter how much energy they had used to push the stones into the glass. If you had devoted all of your energy to the little things, you would run out of energy for the big things in life. So first pay attention to the big things in life, to your family, the children, your health ... There will still be enough time left for the other things. "

After speaking to the students, the professor asked the students if the jar was now full after filling in the gaps with sand. The students agreed with him. The professor took a beer and poured it into it. The beer filled the remaining space. He said to his students: “It doesn't matter how busy your life is, there is always room for a glass of beer. Enjoy it with friends "

I love this story! It shows so wonderfully that and how you can put together a fulfilling life for yourself. Priorities are the magic word to make your own life fulfilled. Now that you know what is important to you in life, put these things in your glass first.

However, some things in our life cannot be shaped or changed. Then it is important that you can also use the second adjusting screw for your happiness:

How does my perception affect my happiness?

One man's garbage is another man's treasure. You are sure to know this sentence. It wonderfully expresses how subjectively we evaluate many things in life. I also have a short story for you about this:

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about the soul warfare that raged inside most people. He said, 'My child, this fight is between the two wolves that are inherent in all of us.

One wolf is black. It is anger, envy, jealousy, suffering, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other wolf is white. He is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith. ‘

The grandson thought about it for a while. Then he asks his grandfather: 'And which wolf wins?

The old Cherokee only replies: 'The one you feed.

So it is not up to your life if it is “bad”. It's because you perceive it that way! You just feed more inside the side that perceives and emphasizes the negative aspects. So in order to improve your life, you need to do “nothing more” than feed the other side.

But how does one do it?

How do I perceive my life to be happier and more fulfilled?

Focus your attention on the positive!

A simple and ingenious exercise for this is a Gratitude diary or a thank you letter. Every evening you record in it what you are grateful for on that day.

  • What good has happened to you?
  • What are you proud of
  • What did you do today
  • Which great people did you have in your life today and how did they enrich it?

It does not have to be in the form of these questions, but can also be written completely freely from the soul. The background is that you are focusing on the positive things. You feed the white wolf. At the same time, of course, you are giving your black wolf less food.

The great thing about this exercise is that on the one hand it works immediately because you become happier and more grateful. On the other hand, the exercise also has a long-term effect, as you sharpen your sensitivity for the positive things in your life and increasingly notice in everyday life what you previously missed or seemed to take for granted. You will generally become happier and more satisfied. This is even proven by studies.

What's next?

Here the circle closes again. You notice that we are approaching the topic from the beginning again, namely to consciously perceive and control life. In a fulfilled life, these four core areas are closely linked and the transitions are fluid. They support and condition each other and no one is available.

I hope with these first aid instructions you can now also bring your life to a fundamentally more fulfilling level in all four areas. If you manage to do that, I'll be incredibly happy for you, because:

Every fulfilled person makes the whole world a little more fulfilled!

If you want to learn more, have questions, need motivation or help or just want to live more meaningfully and happily, stay tuned. I still have something for you.