What do you like most about hugging


Dear Fabian!

It's good that you write to us and not be left alone with your worries. You're right: not everyone and everyone likes to be hugged. Conversely, there are people who like to touch each other.

At least you don't want that others get too close to you. It's great that you know your limits and notice when physical contact becomes too much for you. This is how you take your feelings seriously. Understandably, you want to know what you can do to make others recognize your limits.

As with many other things you can kindly explain to your family members that you don't like hugs. Try to put it in such a way that they understand your concern and don't feel rejected.

For example, you can tell them that you like them but don't like being hugged. Another possibility is if you take the "command" and walk towards them with an outstretched hand and greet them with a handshake. Or you can ask them to ask you first what kind of physical contact would be okay for you. Instead of a hug maybe a kiss or ...?

And should it not work at all, you ask your parents if they can help you with these conversations. Sometimes it takes several attempts to resolve something like this. We therefore wish you patience and courage to ensure that your wish is respected.

Kind regards, your 147