What do you mean by cloakroom courtesy

Getting along well with people

• courtesy! Why?

• The netiquette

• Servant or not?

• How about the "Duzen"?

• The headgear

• The kiss on the hand

• The theater visit

• And the cell phones are ringing everywhere (1st part)

• And the cell phones are ringing everywhere (2nd part)

• The little finger

• The idea of ​​"introducing"

• Introduction of professors and doctors

• The modern woman

• The good invitation

• How punctual is punctual?

• Are sneezing and “health” still relevant?

• The "right-go" rule?

Courtesy! Why?

“Grandma, Mom says there is not enough politeness in society! I wonder why we actually need politeness. "Lea went to the refrigerator, got a plate of cheesecake and a cake fork and sat with it on the rocking chair by the tiled stove.
Grandma, who stood at the stove and watched the freshly brewed coffee pour into the pot, sat down at the set kitchen table. She had been looking forward to a cup of coffee and a piece of cheesecake all day. She looked at Lea and said: “Politeness is a way of building bridges by observing certain rules and forms. It can create closeness through mutual respect, but it can also be used to maintain distance. Opportunities often show up in things we do every day, such as the phone call or birthday card, congratulations on passing the exam or holding the door open. Politeness is a type of lifestyle that can be second nature to you. Those who let themselves go in their private lives and who do not value decency and morals in their family circle will often find it difficult to find their way in society. The easiest way to tell if someone is behaving is rude. Snooping into the privacy of others, secretly reading a colleague's notebook, reaching into the refrigerator without being asked ... all of these are examples of bad behavior. This inattentiveness leaves an impression that makes you appear unreliable and untrustworthy. Arthur Schopenhauer once said: "Politeness is like an air cushion: there may be nothing in it, but it softens the shocks of life." Grandma lowered her voice and was then quieted for a moment. Then she looked reproachfully at Lea and said: "Well, do you like my cake?" Lea looked surprised at the plate on which only crumbs were lying and answered embarrassed: "Oh yes, it was delicious" and she immediately noticed what grandma meant by courtesy.

The netiquette

Grandma looks around the corner into the living room, where Lea is sitting on the sofa and diligently working on the keyboard of her cell phone and says to her: "Lea, coffee and cake are ready, please come over to the kitchen". "Yes, immediately," replies Lea, "I'm finished immediately, and mumbles a few more letters to himself: * bmvl *". “What was that supposed to have been”, asks Grandma, “a new language”? “Not exactly,” replies Lea, “but an international abbreviation of the netiquette”. "Oops," says Grandma, "Netiquette, what's that that I've never heard of"? “This is the code of conduct for electronic communication,” replies Lea. “This new word creation was created by merging“ net ”, short for Internet, and“ etiquette ”. There are a lot of abbreviations you can use for emails and SMS. Above all, I like the smileys best ”. “What are smileys, and what did you abbreviate earlier?” Grandma wants to know. “Well,” says Lea, “my * bmvl *, means:“ bend myself to laugh ”. Grandma laughs and asks: Is there more of it. “Oh yes,” says Lea, “e.g. a * hm * means “I have to think twice” or * dbdb * means “you are the best. There are now even books for these abbreviations. With a few lines and dots you can show different "facial features", called smileys, which represent a certain mood ". Lea takes her cell phone in front of her and types the following picture into the display and shows it to Grandma ":-))". This is a very happy smiley. Do you want more?. “Of course,” says Grandma and Lea starts typing and shows her. ":-D" = laugh at; ":-P" = stick out tongue; ": - *" = kiss; ": -O" = amazed; ": - <" = pointless, etc.. “I think that's really funny,” says Grandma. While Lea reached for a piece of cake, she said: “Despite all the wonderful and not always immediately understandable abbreviations, you should use them very sparingly for the benefit of the recipient. Then Lea bites into the piece of cake and lets out a very long “hmmm”, and Granny asks with a grin: “Do you only like my cake, or do you want to tell me something else”?

Servant or not?

Grandma and Lea sit together in the restaurant and watch the other guests attentively when Lea says with a smile: “Look grandma, how grandpa greets the lady with a handshake and a deep“ servant ”. He can only be glad that there is no table, otherwise he would hit his head flatly ”. "Yes, what luck," says Grandma. “I've told him so often not to overdo it. I think he can no longer get out of this habit, although he knows very well that the servant as well as the "ladies curtsey" are relics that can safely be neglected today. A little hint of a bow, I still take it with the men, or on some occasions I find it polite. At best, diplomats or guests of crowned heads of state still have to know how to bow your head or upper body perfectly as a gentleman ”. “Where does this relic, as you just called it, come from?” Asks Lea. “In the good old days,” replies Grandma, “you offered your counterpart the honor of servant. You tilted your head and upper body to show him that you weren't wearing a helmet, that you were in a sense defenseless and trusting the other, so to speak, that you were in your hands. The curtsey, often combined with a humble look towards the ground, should only prove that the lady submits to the man, or even to the higher-ranking women ”. "But since we are striving for perfect equality," says Grandma, "nowadays neither a servant nor a curtsey is expected". "Unless you meet real majesties, then the servant and the curtsey are still part of it". “Well”, Lea replies a little mischievously, “maybe Grandpa has just greeted a royal highness”. “I hardly think so,” replies Grandma. “And how not?” Leah teases. "There can't be as many majesties here as Grandpa made" servants "," replies Grandma with a slightly jealous undertone.

How about the "Duzen"?

“Hello grandma,” says Lea, “to get a glimpse of a company is really great. Everyone is very nice there, and with some of them I'm even with you! ”“ Well, I'm happy, ”replies Grandma. “Tell me grandma, I wonder how it is basically with the 'Duzen'” “This is easy to answer.” Says Grandma, “It hasn't been around for long to say 'you' to someone. Until the middle of the 19th century, the general 'you' to a familiar person did not exist at all. In bourgeois society everyone was a 'you', even children addressed their parents as 'you'. It was not until the trade union movements that the 'you' was introduced as an expression for brotherhood and socialist equality. Saying 'you' to someone who is not part of your family or group of friends creates a polite distance and an opportunity not to become overly confidential right away. In your job in particular, you should always choose the 'you-form' at the beginning, even if the custom has spread over the past few years in working life to switch to 'you' very quickly. They say it promotes team spirit. I think the decision as to whether someone would rather be addressed as 'you' or 'you' must be left to everyone in their job. ”“ Who is allowed to say 'you' to whom first? ”Asks Lea. "Basically," says Grandma, "the younger one waits until the older one offers him or her the 'you'. In the job, only the superior can offer the 'you'. Age does not matter here. In the past, it was considered improper in the private sphere for a woman to offer a man the 'you'. This rule is now out of date. What is still a bit tricky is when, for example, a company party is celebrated and the alcohol level rises a little in the course of the evening , and then the boss drinks with a 'brotherhood'. "" I would say 'you' to everyone again the next morning, and if it was a serious 'you' from the previous evening, "interrupts Lea Grandma," he'll be fine correct ”, and Grandma agrees with a nod.

The headgear

Lea is walking in the park with Grandpa when a woman walks by and Grandpa takes off her hat elegantly and says: “Hello, Ms. Leopold.” A friendly female voice returns the greetings. “Tell grandpa, why do you men actually take off their hats to greet you?” Leaves asks and grandpa answers: “This custom of removing headgear in greeting goes back a long way. At that time the so-called 'empty hand' was already considered a sign of peace, so the unprotected head was the absolute proof of a friendly disposition. This gave rise to the ritualized gesture of taking off the helmet and, later, of taking off the hat. ”“ Is there a reason why so few men still wear hats today? ”“ Up to 50 years ago, the hat was just as important a part of everyday wardrobe as the shirt or today the tie. The hat is a good example of how every fashion comes from a practical need. In the case of the hat, this was the protection against moisture, dust, cold and sun. If you are able to wash your hair as soon as you need to, you don't need to protect it from dust and dirt. The hairstyles of the 60s and 70s made it difficult for the classic hat to exist. Because who would want to put a hat on the artfully blown hair? And so fewer and fewer hats were worn. ”“ What a shame, ”says Lea,“ are there also rules for greeting with a hat? ”“ My father, ”replies Grandpa,“ used to say: 'If the lady comes from the right, greets the gentleman from the left and vice versa. ' If it can somehow be arranged, the gentleman should pull the hat with his left hand in order to have the right hand free for a handshake. It is important that the hat is taken off sideways and not between you and the person standing opposite Ladies keep their headgear on, men, on the other hand, usually have to take off all their headgear. ”“ That's good to know, ”says Lea,“ I should pass that on to my schoolmates with their baseball caps, ”and Grandpa's facial features turn into a broad grin .

The kiss on the hand

Lea and grandma are sitting in front of the TV while the film credits are finished. Both love and passionate about old romantic films. With a slight sigh, Lea says: “Such films are always beautiful, especially I find it romantic when the gentlemen greet the ladies with a kiss on the hand and say goodbye. It's a shame that nobody does that anymore! Is that rude or even 'forbidden' these days? ”“ No, of course not, ”says Grandma. “Its popularity has fluctuated considerably over the past few decades. With some it is spurned and totally dusty, and with others it is a lovable relic that looks very elegant. "At that moment, Grandma jumps up from her chair and says:" I think I even have an old demeanor. Book describing how to kiss the hand. ”She walks to a shelf and with a handle Grandma has the book in her hand and is turning the pages. “Ah, here it is! So you take: ... "" sounds like a cookbook, "adds Lea and Grandma continues," ... gently put the lady's hand on her fingertips, lift it up slightly and lean forward. Then do it as if you wanted to kiss the top of your hand, but pause shortly beforehand and straighten up again. The lips must never touch the skin, never a kissing sound can be heard ... Nice, isn't it? "says Grandma." The stylish and A perfectly shaped kiss represents a bow to the lady and is a sign of admiration and respect. I think that a kiss on the hand is still imaginable today at a reception or ball, less at a party. The kiss on the hand should also only be limited to closed rooms, This also includes terraces. In addition, when the gentleman greets a lady in a group with a kiss on the hand, he must allow this gesture to be shared with everyone else. The kiss on the hand may only be indicated over bare skin, not over gloves. A. uja, "says Lea with a laugh," then it is time for spring to come and I no longer need gloves. "Grandma looks at Lea for a few moments, and then she laughs too.

The theater visit

Lea and grandma are in the foyer of the theater and have just checked in their cloakroom when Lea asks grandma: "Tell me grandma what actually happens when you're late in the theater or at the opera"? “Spoken in your language,” replies Grandma, “it was just unlucky. Because it is indeed the case that if you are late for a theater performance or a concert, you have to wait until the break in the first act so as not to disturb singers, actors, musicians and the audience. Some theaters have special boxes high up and to the side for latecomers, which cannot be perceived as entering from below. Even after the breaks, as soon as the doors to the auditorium are closed, you usually have no chance to return to your seat ”. “That's why there is always a bell over the loudspeaker,” Lea asks in between. “Right,” replies Grandma, “once the doorbell rings, you should go back to your seat. Two doorbells signal that it is now high time to go to the place and three rings announce the closing of the doors ”. “Oops”, says Lea, “I've never noticed that the doorbell rings differently. I have to pay attention to that today ”. “Do that,” says Grandma. “What is also important in the theater is the applause,” says Grandma. "Of course," says Lea, "that's the 'bread of the artist'". “That's right,” says Grandma, “but you also know when to applaud”. "Well, if you ask me like that, I'm looking forward to your answer". “Well,” begins Grandma, “at a concert, in a multi-movement piece, there is no applause between the sentences, but at the end. In operas you clap after the individual acts. If at a spiritual concert applause is only desired at the end of the concert, this is usually indicated in the program booklet or in the greeting ”. “Well then let's go into the hall”, Lea says impatiently with joy, “otherwise I won't be able to apply the newly learned rules properly”, and they both look at each other and laugh!

And the cell phones are ringing everywhere (1st part)

Grandma and Lea are sitting in a restaurant with the whole family. The food has been excellent so far, soft music plays in the background, candles spread a warm light, and the atmosphere is really harmonious, calm and romantic, until suddenly a loud telephone ring sounds at the table next to you. A young man reaches into his jacket pocket, takes out his cell phone and starts to make a call. Lea looks at Grandma and says: “A cell phone like that can be a real mood killer.” “Yes, unfortunately,” says Grandma, “it seems to me that more and more people think they have to prove their importance with a cell phone. In the past, the importance may have been documented by a large car or an expensive wristwatch. Today it seems that this can also be achieved with a cell phone, especially among young people. ”“ But it's still trendy to be available all the time. It could be something very important, ”says Lea with a grin. "That can happen occasionally," says Grandma.“But be honest, most of the time the conversations are of a rather irrelevant nature. In many cases, the cell phone is a great and useful addition to our daily life if one observes a few rules for the benefit of one's fellow human beings. ”“ And which do you mean, Grandma? ”“ I think that it is not exactly polite, to keep your cell phone switched on in public, for example at the doctor's, at a pop or classic concert, in pubs or in restaurants. If you really expect an urgent call, you should tell the person you are talking to beforehand and then keep the phone call as short as possible. The ringtone should also be set quite low and the longest ringtone should be avoided so that you don't annoy others. ”“ Tell me grandma, are there any places or situations where there is an absolute ban on cell phones? ”Asks Lea. “Yes there is, Lea,” says Grandma, “but I'll tell you that a little later, because our dessert is just coming ...

"And the cell phones are ringing everywhere" (2nd part)

“Grandma,” says Lea, “you wanted to tell me where there is an absolute ban on cell phones. “Correct,” replies Grandma, “in churches, hospitals, at funerals and funerals, you should completely do without your cell phone. Especially at funerals, it is not enough to mute or turn off a cell phone. Even the visible taking of a cell phone is a rude act ”. “And why?” Asks Lea. “It works like a non-verbal signal, as if you didn't even have so much sympathy during this time of commemoration to exclude other important things. Even when visiting a sick person, gifts and attention should be given exclusively to the person being visited. Cell phones are also out of place in churches, as well as during an interview ”. “And what about text messages,” Lea asks. “Receiving a short message,” replies Grandma, “is not impolite under certain conditions if the cell phone is muted and the incoming text message is silent. What is considered impolite, however, is if someone has their cell phone in front of them during a conversation and breaks eye contact to constantly stare at their cell phone to see if a new text message has been received or, worse, is still reading it. This is a clear signal of disregard for the other person. That doesn't change anything if you had a conversation while standing. ”“ I would also be interested in something completely different about SMS? ”Says Lea. “What?” Asks Grandma. "Should you write the text of an SMS in upper / lower case or is it sufficient to write everything in lower case"? “I think,” says Grandma, “everyone can decide for themselves whether they want to write everything down conservatively big / small or 'globally trendy'.” “It's really great Grandma how you know it,” says Lea. "Well," I also enjoy doing these things, "says Grandma with a smile and is visibly pleased with the compliment.

The little finger

“Hello grandma,” says Lea, “have your guests been there for a long time for the 'coffee party'?” “Oh yes, we had a lot of fun yesterday afternoon.” “Tell me grandma,” says Lea with a slightly delayed voice “I was with yesterday one of your guests observed something funny for me. ”“ So, ”says Grandma,“ what? ”“ Have you ever seen that your neighbor always spreads her little finger when she touches the cup? ”“ Yes, I did “Says grandma. “But she's been doing that for as long as I've known her, and every time I keep thinking of the story that was told to me, about the origin of that splayed little finger. I'm not sure whether it is really true. It is said to have originated in the early baroque period, when people at court preferred to powder and perfume themselves again instead of washing themselves properly. At that time there was still a lot of bad manners at the table. You blow your nose on the tablecloth, etc. At that time you used your little finger to 'peel' the wax out of your ear. "" Yuck, Leah throws in, "that's totally disgusting!" says Grandma, “but there is more. At that time there was no grease- or other dirt-dissolving detergent for the dishes, and therefore attempts were made to avoid soiling the good tea or coffee dishes. So if you cleaned your ear with your little finger immediately beforehand and didn't want the ear wax on the cup, you inevitably had to spread it out. ”“ Over time, you stopped digging your finger in your ear, but you felt it upper classes of society as very elegant and elegant looking, continue to spread your little finger from the cup. Nowadays spreading fingers on cups and glasses, as you, Lea, would say, is completely 'out'. ”“ A nice story! ”Says Lea“ but maybe it was just because the cup handles were too small and therefore there wasn't enough space for the fingers. ”“ Who knows, who knows, ”says Grandma and leans back relaxed in her rocking chair.

The idea of ​​"introducing"

“Grandma, Mom said, tomorrow I should introduce her to my teacher and 4 school friends from the new theater group, because we want to meet at my house. Although I'm looking forward to it, I'm a little scared of it. My teacher is actually very nice, but still from "the old school" ... hopefully I'll do everything right when introducing them. You know mom ... she attaches great importance to it. Who do I introduce first and how? ”Grandma, who is obviously surprised by this question, leans forward in her chair and grabs the pot of tea that is in the middle of the table and asks Lea if she has one too Cup of wool tea. Lea said no and Grandma pours herself a cup. “I understand your problem, but I can reassure you because it is basically very simple. There are still two “golden rules” that must be observed today: the lady's name must be given before the man's or the boss is mentioned before the employee and the obviously younger person is introduced to the older one. The handshake and a smile are part of the greeting, like Romeo to Juliet. Even a slight bow is still welcome in this day and age. Here it is the female person who takes the initiative. It is she who extends her hand first, and the older person in turn reaches out to the younger one. Once introduced, you can say “pleasant” or “very pleased”, but a nice personal comment is better. When introducing yourself, you should avoid the cool way: “I'm Martin from Marburg” or the exaggerated way “my name is Bond, James Bond”. It is still best to say your first and last name clearly. So, when you receive the visit tomorrow ", Lea interrupts her grandma and says:" First I introduce my teacher, then the girls and then the boys. Right? "" Yes, you learn quickly, hopefully that is also the case with your theater texts! "

Introduction of professors and doctors

Lea, asks Grandma, how did the performance of your teacher and school friends go? Did you do everything right I think so, says Lea, because mom has praised me, and that should mean something! Lea takes a short break and watches Grandma as she takes the pot holder from the wall. "Tell Grandma, how would I have introduced my teacher if he had a doctorate or a professorial title?" While Grandma opens the oven door and puts the baked cheesecake on the kitchen table to cool down, she replies: "There's a whole one today Lots of professors, doctors, diplomas and other professional titles that come before a name. They provide information about the profession that the person has learned or studied. You have to pay attention to this when introducing it correctly, otherwise one or the other could be offended. Basically, it's very easy with the titles. When introducing third parties, not all academic degrees, such as professor or doctor, and nobility titles have to be mentioned, because they are not an integral part of the name. If these people introduce themselves, leave out their titles. In conversation with a professor Dr. Dr. one always addresses him with the highest degree. All other names such as qualified engineer, ADTV dance teacher or master carpenter are not mentioned, but you can still do it ”. Grandma pauses briefly to carefully check with the flat of her hand how warm the cake is, and then continues: "If you ever get into the situation of writing a letter to a professor or doctor, you should make sure that the address is completely written down with all academic degrees. In the letter itself, only the salutation with the highest grade is used, just like in the conversation. ”“ I think I can easily remember that ”, says Lea, grins maliciously and asks:“ And how is it with you Grandma Sophie , “Grandma” is a degree or a profession.

The modern woman

"Grandma, Mom said the gentleman helps the lady out and into her coat and that's that." "Yes, yes, says Grandma, the rules of etiquette used to be that simple." were ", asks Lea," I think it's great when grandpa always helps me into my coat and sometimes holds the door open ". Grandma, who is standing in the kitchen, lovingly washing the good coffee crockery that is not allowed in her dishwasher, turns to Lea and replies: "Even today there are enough men who take this gesture for granted and enough women too, who can be happy about it, provided you don't have to twist yourself to get into your coat sleeves. But, "continues Grandma," why should only he do something good for her in the age of equality? Women can also help a man on and off his coat, hold the door open or take something from him if he has too much to carry. In some situations this can be very helpful for him as well. In the same way, I can also imagine that she as the hostess enters a restaurant first, places her guests, chooses the wine and tastes it and finally pays the bill. If a modern woman wants a man to behave like a gentleman, she should behave like a "lady". He must feel that she wants his help in the case of the coat or the door. She can signal this by not reaching for her coat right away, or by standing in front of a closed door, stepping aside and letting the man step forward. If she doesn't want this help, she can refuse it, but despite all emancipation she shouldn't violate the unwritten laws of courtesy. "" That sounds good, "says Lea, then from now on I would also like to become a modern woman!" "That works out well, says Grandma, a modern woman sees how and whom she can help on her own, takes a towel on her own and likes to dry me off!"

The good invitation

Grandma cuts off a few roses in her garden when Lea comes to her. "Hello grandma." "Good afternoon, Lea". "Grandma, I urgently need your help". “Where's the fire?” Answers grandma. "As you know, I want to have a party, and when I asked mom how I can best invite the guests, she only said:" You usually do everything via SMS from your cell phone, why make an exception now !? " “Wouldn't that be a break in style with the“ good invitation? ”Asks Lea. Grandma replies: “Well, there is a“ rule of thumb ”that says that anything that would not be a faux pas over the phone, even as email, SMS or fax, is not a step in the wrong direction. I think that with a private invitation, regardless of whether it is verbal, in writing or otherwise, you should make an effort and come up with something. The more personal and individual an invitation is, the better it will be received by the guest. On the other hand, for official celebrations, anniversaries, weddings or ceremonies, only the written way is actually always appropriate ”. “What must an official invitation contain?” Asks Lea. “Good question Lea,” answers grandma. So, it must contain who invites, what occasion is celebrated, when and where the celebration takes place, what clothing is desired, what form the answer should have, e.g. by reply card, by telephone and where the answer should be sent ”.
“Ah, I think”, says Lea, “I've seen something like this before. It always says, among other things - an answer is asked for ". “Right,” says Grandma. As a rule, an official invitation should be sent out 4-5 weeks in advance. If you want to do it perfectly, you send another reminder card shortly beforehand with the relevant information and a note “p.m.”, which means “pour memoire” in French and “to remember” in German. Take some roses with you, maybe you can use them to embellish your invitation ”. Lea laughs and says: "You mean I should invite through the flower ?!"

How punctual is punctual?

“Hello grandma”, Lea says excitedly with joy, “I have received an invitation and I can't figure it out very well”. “What do you mean by that, you are not getting the hang of her?” Replies Grandma. “Look down here it says“ s.t. ”, says Lea. "Neither mom nor I can do anything with the abbreviation". Grandma replies: “I can help you with that. This abbreviation "s.t." means "sine tempore", which literally means "without time". This is to indicate to you that you should appear on time, please. If you find the abbreviation "c.t." on an invitation, this means "cum tempore", ie "with time". This allows the guest to appear up to a quarter of an hour, sometimes even up to half an hour, later than indicated ”. “Isn't that the so-called“ Academic quarter of an hour? "Yes," answers grandma. Is there a logical explanation for this, ”asks Lea. “This“ quarter of an hour ”, replies Grandma,“ makes sense. Imagine that you have invited to a big party and you want to greet each guest personally, then you will be grateful when the guests arrive gradually ”. Ah, I understand, ”says Lea. “I think punctuality is very important,” says Grandma, “because keeping someone else waiting is impolite. There are still a few "punctuality rules" for celebrations, even if it is not explicitly stated. “Which one?” Asks Lea, and Grandma replies: “If you are invited to a warm meal, the guest has to be punctual to the minute. The same applies to a festival that opens with music or a speech. For an evening invitation without dinner, you should be roughly on time, but never more than 15 minutes earlier or later. At a big party, reception or when it says, for example, "from 6 p.m." punctuality is not absolutely necessary. “Punctuality is the courtesy of kings”, they always say, Grandma concludes “. Then Lea: "It's good that I'm not a king". “Still, all the rules apply to you too,” says grandma. "It's a shame," says Lea and they both smile.

Sneezing and saying “health” are still topical?

Grandma is sitting in the living room and sorting photos in her photo album when Lea enters the room with a crimson nose. "Hello, Lea," says grandma, "oh dear, you seem to have caught a cold pretty badly." "Hello grandma" greets Lea, "it's not as bad as it looks". At the same moment she takes a deep breath and has to sneeze loudly. Lea takes the handkerchief from her face and spontaneously says: "Thank you". “What do you say thank you for?” Asks Grandma. "Well, I thought you would say" health "now," replies Lea. “I'm trying to get used to that,” says Grandma and Lea asks in astonishment: “Why that?” “I recently learned,” says Grandma, “that you don't say this anymore.” “Is there a reason for that”, Lea asks interested and puts away her handkerchief.“The reason is,” explains Grandma, “that the number of allergy sufferers is regrettably increasing and people who are constantly plagued by sneezing could quickly understand the constant“ health ”as an irony. Also, a sneeze doesn't have to be a sign of illness. Just think about the effects of pepper! In many situations, people who sneeze feel like troublemakers anyway. The "health" would intensify this effect. Nowadays it is said that comments on involuntary body expressions are basically superfluous. There is no answer to a cough, for example. ”“ That makes sense, ”says Lea understandably,“ but somehow you've gotten used to it, and I think it's a nice gesture to wish someone a speedy recovery. ”“ That's how I see it also, "says Grandma," there is a beautiful legend from the Middle Ages that says that the "Grim Reaper" owned a book where everyone was noted by name. Every time he read a name, the person sneezed. Then they quickly wished her “health”. “Well, don't be angry with me if I say“ health ”again out of habit.” Leah says mischievously: “I still have to think about that.”

The "right-go" rule?

Lea, her parents and grandparents decide over breakfast that they want to go into town to go shopping. Or as grandma puts it, getting to know the variety and types of euro coins. While walking in the upper town, Lea asks: “Tell me, why did grandma hook her grandfather's right arm and mom hooked her left arm? “Doesn't the woman always have to go to the right of the gentleman? Who is the real gentleman of the two of you? ”“ I think we both do, ”says Grandpa. “And”, says Lea, “is there a reason for that”? “Well,” Grandpa always starts when he wants to tell something important, “in earlier centuries it was so common and often necessary for gentlemen to wear a sword or a rapier on the left hip side in order to be able to defend themselves with it in the event of a dispute . From these days comes the rule to let women and higher-ranking people go to your right because there was enough space on this side. Later the addition was added that the Lord should go on the so-called "danger side". This rule has almost been forgotten today, although parents in particular still instinctively keep it, since it is safer for children not to walk on the side of the road. Nowadays the recommendation is that on official occasions the ladies and high-ranking people go to the right. Otherwise: As everyone likes it. Therefore you can also reverse the "right-go" rule. It is a good idea if you look at the shop windows on the sidewalk on the left-hand side of the street, "joking grandpa". If you are in the park or in a pedestrian zone, it is up to the woman which side she wants to walk or hook up on. ”Grandpa adds with a smile:“ Unless the man wants to guide her past the city's most expensive jewelry store without being noticed ”. "Well, then I'm glad," says Lea, "that I am walking here alone today and that no one hooks me up and walks past my favorite shop window".